Monday, November 2, 2009

Am I wrong????

You know how when a guy and a girl go steady, what's on d their mind is

Guy…… yeah steady sex

Girl……. Steady money

That's as long as the guy is able to afford it.

Well most girls that are lucky to have a guy that's not only loaded but generous live in the dream world of luxury


 

Well, the reason am going through all these is that I have a big problem asking for or collecting money from ty, this is a guy have been dating for 5years, I know his finances I now when he has and when he is broke.. I know how extremely generous he is but I would rather ask a stranger than him……


 

I guess it's some misplaced sense of independence believing that giving into asking him for stuff is like selling myself ... Even though I share my whole life and all I entail with him… I would do anything for this boy and I love giving him stuff I live for the day his broke and I can be the one giving…. (Hardly ever happens!!!!)

Before he left for jand he made me promise to ask I I needed anything knowing that I wouldn't

For a while av been needing some stuff and cracking ma head about how to get d money…even tried a few uncles and aunties….when I couldn't get any..decided to finally ask ty…… so we were chattin on messenger and am like baby pls can u call I want to ask u something and I don't want to do it chatting, Immediately I typed d enter key I started regretting so I asked him not to bother but being him of cos he didn't listen, went out in cold and bought some credit to cal me by then I was already feeling extremely guilty, so hes like baby what did u want to ask me so I make up some stuff and just say, he sees right thru it and immediately starts bothering me to tell him…


 

He knows its about money cos I only behave funny when it comes to money…and he just wants me to ask, I lie and tell him its nothing.. and he starts saying he doesn't understand why I cant ask him for stuff that am suppose to love him..

This guy is supposed to be happy that I don't demand instead he spent 20mins on international rate begging me to ask him for money…

I don't bulge and finally we end up chatting again……..until I finally ask him and his like yes baby I will send it tomorrow

I go to bed feeling crazy guilty, is it wrong that I am like that… I just feel as if I asked for too much, as if now I have to make it up to him In someway, am furious with myself cos am suppose to be enjoying d benefits of having great guy but I cant…

Most of my friend look at me and tell me dat am so lucky cos of ty but they don't know that I cant ask him for stuff, they have no qualms about asking their guys and I just wonder I maybe I am causing trouble in my relationship…


 

NB I happen to get a lot from ty even without asking…..(hes great like that)

12 comments:

juiceegal said...

First!!!!!!!!!

juiceegal said...

First of all..where the hell have u been?? and how come i din't know you were back?? If u did not comment on my last post i won't have known u were back, why is ur blog not updating on my blogroll??? Too many questions i know...lol.How have u been sha. Okay lemme comment on the post.

juiceegal said...

Well in some ways i'm like you...although i'm no miss independent, far from that cuz if u give me i would collect but then i have a problem asking, not only in relationships but people in general. I feel kinda obliged to return a favour whenever i ask for stuff from people. But hey if it gets ur man angry then u should try and adjust for the sake of ur relationship. And please don't listen to ur friends, its because of girls like them that men believe all women are gold diggers.

Lady X said...

I think he feels that there should be no bars in your relationship so that's why he really wanted you to ask. I have a big problem asking for money! Like even when it's my siblings can you imagine!

Anonymous said...

I'm the sammmme way. I can't ask for money or anything. This whole sense of independence thing will not kill me lol. A wise woman told me that a man wants to be able to provide for me and as much as they don't want you leeching on them, they want to believe that someone else is not providing for you other than me. SO I say ask in moderation (I am trying to practice this and I have not gotten it right yet)

Anonymous said...

Sorry I meant other than them.

Myne Whitman said...

Anonymous said in moderation and I agree. Men who are your SO want to feel needed and one way of doing that is receiving their gifts graciously. I rarely ask but I don't feel guilty when I do. And don't put TY through 20mins gymnastics to wring it out from you. You guys are team mates, if you can't talk to him on everything, ask yourself question.

lucidlilith said...

Don't ask a guy for money and if you do, ask for it like its a loan. Then try to pay it back. That gesture does wonders for a relationship.

leggy said...

i like you hun. keep it up..dont mind your friends..love is more than the money and ish.

Tatababe said...

I'm totally the same way, I think I'm so used to taking care of myself and besides I don't want a guy thinking I'm with him because of his money....don't be too hard on urself though. First time on here...

Harry-Rami Itie said...

Love means much more than money or sex or any other thing... Love is God

BBB said...

@juiceegal....hey long time..... am serving in lagos now....
i know not to be a leech but i guess ishould be open to receivin things after all loves about sharing

@ladyX.... i think thatsow he feels....will work on it

@ Anonymous.... i agree i guess thats d truth..asking in moderation is a good step forward

@myne whitman... i guess i can talk to him bout everything i just want him to look up to me as a girl thats got her own...

@lucildith...if i do that he will ask where i intend to get d money to pay back..we know each others finances no need deceivin ourselves

@leggy.... totally agree

@tatababe... thanks for stopping by...

@harry.... i agree..i guess that should be d basis for what i do

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