Monday, May 25, 2009

The case of the Wrist watch...........

Ladies and Gentlemen, my distinguished blogsville family, i bring before u this serious case oh, to buy or not to buy??????

let me tell u the story....

Story Story
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Once upon a Time
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there lived a beautiful princess named alyzzzz...... oh this is getting boring let me just get down to the issue.

am working right now before my nysc in july and this week i get my salary which isn't really much but i am determined to buy myself a swatch, my problem is that all the things of value i have where either bought my mumsie or TY, all my watches are either vals or bday gifts, my perfumes are gotten each time he travels, my cherished bags all gifts, my gold sets from mumsie and even my beloved gold studs were gotten the last time he travelled to Dubai, so this time i am determined to buy this watch for myself.

But the problem is that my salary is really little, and by the time i buy the watch i wouldn't have enough for some basic shopping (i need to buy some shirts for work and other necessary girlie thingies).......

So on Saturday i met up with TY in his house and i was telling him about how i was really determined to buy the watch only for him to start saying that i shouldn't buy it, all my signals were running haywire cos i was used to it, that was how he said i shouldn't buy the fone and he ended up buying it for me, i started telling him about how i was up to his tricks and i didn't want him buying the watch for me cos i could see that was his plan....... i went on a roll about how everything i had was either bought by him or mumsie, after some time i could see that he was not happy at all and i started feeling bad, he was like he thought i would be happy that he loved buying stuff for me, i was like yeah (because u know i do), but i really wanted to do this for myself.
He started telling me about how he knows i need my money for other important things and he was already planning towards buying the watch for me, ( i had previously picked the watch i wanted in swatch shop in the palms mall).

In September he is going to jand for his masters and i am going to be alone for the first time in 5yrs, when he isn't there nko wont i have to take care of myself....., what am i going to do? start calling him in jand for money, thats what i was telling him, i am really uncomfortable asking him for money, i love doing things myself, i just believe that he isnt my father and hence shouldnt be taking care of me as if he is....
i proceeded to tell him all that, but guess what he said..." babes u know i wouldn't mind u calling me even if i am in jand in fact that's what i would want, u call if u have any problem", say what!!!!!!, d boy wants to turn me to an invalid.

BUT REALLY PEOPLE AM I BEING UNGRATEFUL COS I DON'T KNOW, I REALLY WANT THIS WATCH, AND BUYING IT FOR MYSELF WILL COST ME A LOT COS I HAVE SOME OTHER IMPORTANT THINGS TO GET, AND TY IS HELL BENT ON BUYING IT FOR ME...

SHOULD I STAND MY GROUND AND BUY IT FOR MYSELF.....
OR JUST LET GO AND LET THIS MAN BE A MAN.....

23 comments:

Miss Natural said...

lol tough choice but there are no two ways about it. You either forfeit the watch and save your salary for other things, you could ask for contributions from your dad and mom...or you could just do what you really want to do lol and ask Ty for the watch. After all, he's travelling soon so distance would make it inevitable that there are some things you need to start doing for yourself. I say let him buy it, you can worry about being independent after he's travelled and gone. But yeah I feel you about the independence thing...but its a balance with times you have to let go and times you have to do your own thing.

blogoratti said...

To buy or not to buy....hnnnm what a delicate and dicey situation, what a predicament, what a ......
Don't mind me,hehe. I'd say -cut your coat according to size, buy the things you NEED not the things you WANT at this point in time. Don't let him buy it for you either. Sacrifice, sacrifice...sacrifice!
Just a thought.

juiceegal said...

So ur joinin me in dis LDR by sept....lol dnt mind me jo
Newaiz back 2 d issue at hand,i wld advice that u stand ur ground just this time around.....let him know that as much as u enjoy him buying things for u,there are just some things u need to do by urself......remember that u guys are nt yet married,u are not being ungrateful,everything in this life is all about balance.Trust me he'l undastand,the most important thing is for u 2 reassure him that u kno u can always count on him in ur times of difficulties.

Sir Scribbles II said...

If u want my opinion (which u obviously do lol) is that you shudn't buy it, the theory is u shud only buy stuff like dis wen u can afford it and it wont hurt ur pocket or wen u r stinky rich and don't know wat to do wiv ur money. DO u have a watch? if u do then forget buying dis one 4 now...if u want it that bad then I suggest u give in to TY's offer cos very soon u no go dey see oga again (I say that wiv love and sympathy lol)

naija shawty said...

me! i will not buy it. cos its not financially convenient. i think u've hqave made ur point known. u want to be allowed to take of urself and still receive gifts with gratitude.

cerberus said...

The cerberus guide to buying a watch

Will it be a necessity or an accessory?

How many times will you wear it a week?

Is the cost benefit low?

Is it a limited edition or rare collectors piece?

Answer those honestly and you'll have your decision nearly made for you.

On the other hand, if u really wanna buy it for urself, save my dear till u can afford it and tell ur boy NOT to get it. If he a man, he will respect that.

Brokeass said...

Definitely with cerebrus and naija shawty on this one...if u cant afford it, dnt buy it yet. And tell him not to either....

O another note...sorry o! U will be seperated soon...pele my dia!

Tay-mee said...

hmmm..thats a tough one oh..lol
See me I like feeling like "Miss independent" so if it means you have to sacrifice a few things for the watch, I reckon you go for it. It's always nice to feel like you don't have to depend on other people for things you want for yourself. I'm sure you have other work clothes and can buy the other stuff with money you have saved up if you do. But yea enough ranting go for it..:)

miss.fab said...

I think you should just save for it and buy it when you can afford it. I wouldn't give in to him cuz the next time you maintain that you want to do something for yourself, he may not take you seriously and do it for you anyway. I know it's all love ehn and he means no harm but if you don't need it, you can probably do without it a little longer.

♥B said...

I know, they were love at first sight!

I say get the watch on your own. Having the watch will be satisfying in itself but having got it yourself is even more satisfying.

Writefreak said...

You should buy things you can afford and not things you want...and seriously, this is not a need. I would say don't buy it yet if you have to buy it yourself, you can save yo for it even...you can explain what it means to you to do this for yourself to TY...if you don't have very cogent reasons though, you can let him do it...
Hope that helps!

My World said...

Babe,it is something about guys I am trying to understand as well.....
But starting to be financially independent is something you should do and I really expect TY to understand the moment you explain it less passionately.......
I for 1 love to buy stuff for people around but I also love the idea of buying things when I feel like and treasure them most when I use my own money..
Just talk to him again and let it go when he insists,its no big deal really......

BSNC said...

Buy the important things now, you can have all the swatch you want later on when you can afford it :)

leggy said...

to buy or not to buy...that is d question!!!lolabeg save ur money buy am another tym or u let hm get get it...first tym here..nice blog.

Arewa said...

LET THE MAN BUY GURL!!!!

U will buy for urself some other time..afterall, there shd be an infinite amount of things u want :)

OPTIMISTIC_alyzzz said...

it seems the house is divided,most think i should buy it myself and be an independent woman
while others (arewa,sir scribbles and miss natural) think i should let TY get it for me after all he wouldn't be around for long.....

well i decided to wait and get the watch from next month salary and manage the dead one i have now.
BTW this is a need not a want oh its just a a very expensive need lol.


talked to TY about it and he seems to have let it go, but he had that type of smile that said he had a backup plan.

anyway thanks a lot really appreciate it guyz.

Original Mgbeke said...

Like they all said, don't buy it now...focus on your neccesities first and try to explain to TY that it's nothing personal but you want to feel a little bit self sufficient. I can see that he doesn't mind taking care of you though, that's how men do o jare.

*Dith* said...

girlllllllllllllll u are lucky as heaven!! WARAHELL?? Soo boyfriends like that do exist?? lol
Abeg collect watch from TY..na wetin??

Ok Ok, let me be good. talk to him abt ur feelings. it's just u wanting to do something for urself that's all. I'm sure he'll understand.

♥B said...

Thanks for the bday wishes :)

babajidesalu said...

What do I think?

You are one lucky lady o.

Let him buy you the swatch and enjoy.

If we (men) don't do, you (women) will complain.

If we do a little, you still complain.

Then when we choose to do more for the woman of our lives, then we are in big trouble.

Help us now? lolllllllll

taKia and God bless you.

Buttercup said...

I see you've made your decision already..good for you then. He sure sounds like he's totally crazy about you!

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

Hmm, may i suggest a 3rd option, even though it might be too late...

How about not buying the watch with your money and not having TY buy it for you? Simply go without?

No curse me oh, but it is an option you didn't mention in the post.

Miss FlyHigh - LondonsNaijaQueen said...

Ohhh so Optimistic alyzz ur BBB ...now I get it ...mumsie saw ur blog abi ...wat did she say?

Hun, I understand you want to buy your own things but if you can't afford it and you really need it then I think it is no problem him buying it for you. Hope you are being good to him madam.

Seems like he is a nice guy, what does he do that he shops for you like this .... when I come to naij this summer mu baby better do tht for me too!! lol...joking!

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