Tuesday, March 30, 2010

HOW???

How do u know when u cross the line between loving sumone and just being comfortable with them?

actually loving someone or just being used to loving them?

When u have been with sumone for so long that the person seems like he is interfaced in your life, that when things go wrong, you dnt know whether the reason why you are still there is cos uve always been there?

When do things get bad enough, or things get to the stage that you know its time to say goodbye?

How do you leave someone that has blessed your life with so much love and happiness?

How do you know when the bad starts over powering the good?

How do you know what qualifies as a bad enough reason to sever ties that have gone through so much together?

How?
How?
I wonder?

*fiction or is it??*
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16 comments:

Omotee! said...

tres nice. great job

doll said...

with my first ex...i actually thought i had stopped loving him that i was just comfortable cuz we'v been together for like ever! but now i know i still loved him and i kinda still love him...NOW

so in answer to your first question...there is no line

In answer to no 2&3...same difference

No 4...when you no longer see a future with the person..you know it has gotten bad enough

How do you leave someone that has blessed your life with so much love and happiness? My dear...when you find an answer to this...let me know...

Hope u are ok though?

..Moyo said...

Maybe I don't know, maybe it's true or maybe just because - you don't know when it happens. People just fade away.
You grow so close, you share these emotions and life and then one day, everything stops.
You don't know how and you don't know why. You don't even realise until one day, something happens and you think "If they were here, we'd do this, this wouldn't happen" and such.
But we never know.
Only one of the beauties/complexities of life. You aren't to know...
because it just happens.

Nutty J. said...

...I agree with the comments above, but hope ur question is just a general one...and not bcos of TY?

...cos then I'd say, maybe...just mayb u are going thru a phase, and it wud pass, cos u two really seem like u belong together 4eva


Just saying

Myne Whitman said...

Good one, you made me think it was real. There are no real answers you just have consider all things carefully.

Ms. 'dufa said...

True, its hard to walk away though

sosexy said...

That when you both become a habit to each other when the love no longer exits.Hard to walk away but what galvanizes you is how long you're willing to be unhappy.First time here.New in blogsville.

Jaycee said...

There's always a thin line between good and bad...that's why we need God's grace to make difficult decisions. The human nature though is to make a lot of wrong decisions, which I've done in the past as well. It's a journey of discovery...:)

Suru said...

I would love to know the answer to this too but it's complicated.

Suru said...

I would love to know the answer to this too but it's complicated.

Blowing Blessings Your Way said...

Hmmm...I wish I knew the answers...its as you're reading my mind!!!

Blowing Blessings Your Way said...

Hmmm...I wish I knew the answers...its as you're reading my mind!!!

Ms.O said...

HMM.... more questions I see...

Nice Anon said...

Many questions too little answers.

BBB said...

thanks for all the input guys
i have been going thru rough patches in my relationship
and i guess its cause its long distance
things tend to get to me more
and i tend to loose patience when things go wrong
but i have come to realize that the key to a successful relationship is patience
and humility
pride is the main reason relationship fails
humbling yourself and trying to see the real issues and what can be done to solve it, is a huge step towards making it smooth.

we just have to look to the future and realize if being with that person will eventually make you happy, cos you might be riding thru a storm but def there will be light and calm at the end.

how do you know when its the right time to sever ties with someone, to me its when you cant see any future with the person, when you know deep down that the relationship is bringing more pain than joy, when you know that u arent loved back....

thanks for your input.

i was inspired by vera's show this past weekend on LDRs though i didnt listen in being in nigeria and all, a lot of people wrote follow up posts and they made me realize that nothing is ever smooth and you just have to apply yourseld 101% to get your desired result
love u guys

LE DYNAMIQUE PROFESSEUR said...

BBB, seriously, these questions are like the most frequent of battles in my mind. Talk about the battle field of the mind *Joyce Meyer*. I cherish friendship and some friends are just too wonderful - too lovely at that... such that after a while, it'd look as though I am falling for them cos they have contributed too much to my life to let them go... I just cant say goodbye.

Me self no get answer.. .lol
I need help.

- LDP

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