Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Controversy Day---- CAN A LEOPARD CHANGE ITS SPOTS?

Hi fam,
i decided to start a contoversy day, i day when i bring out the questions most plaguing and hand it over to you to debate on what you think
Pros and Cons
and then after a week, i would tally result and decide by popularity what the answer should be
please try not to get emotions into it
lets be practical!!!!!!!!

Thanks.


So the topic for today is

CAN A LEOPARD CHANGE ITS SPOTS?

Of course i am talking about a leopard figuratively, i actually mean a man,

is it possible for a man that has hit a woman to change?

should he be given another chance?

what of if  he stops after the second time it happens?

and doesnt do it again for 3years and askes you to marry him will you?

should u be scared that even if it was 10years ago he hit you last one day it might happen again?

should you forgive and forget and move on from it?

if he seems genuinely sorry do u let go?

if you continue with the relationship, do you keep holding it over him that he hit you once before?

what is your take on this matter
can a guy that has hit you once actually change?
can a leopard change its spots?
UPDATE
What of women hitting men?
Do we think that's justifiable
Is there a point we get to where a woman hitting a man becomes correct
What of when couples fight
And d woman hits d man to protect herself or destroys his property
What's out take on that
Is it a one sided thing

Let the men speak
Do you think its justifiable to beat up a woman
If she hits u first in anger
Or say she destroys ur property in a struggle
Is that reason enough to like give her a slap

Do we think that a violent woman should be given another chance

16 comments:

LDP said...

People do change. Only God, doesnt. I am a male and not sure if I should be commenting. lol

sosexy said...

..Playing with fire and you gonna get burnt lady!
Well,May I suppose they could change
But seriously???!Do they ever.!
Whatever I sure aint getting my fingers but as they'd be good for just a while!
Hey..I'm so first!

doll said...

is it possible for a man that has hit a woman to change? YES

should he be given another chance? DEPENDS ON IF YOU ARE WILLING TO TAKE THE CHANCE THAT IT MAY OR MAY NOT HAPPEN AGAIN..ITS 50:50

what of if he stops after the second time it happens? ITS POSSIBBLE

and doesnt do it again for 3years and askes you to marry him will you? IF I AM WILLING TO TAKE THE CHANCE>>BUT THERE IS ALWAYS A POSSIBILITY THAT HE MAY

should u be scared that even if it was 10years ago he hit you last one day it might happen again? YES. BUT DONT LIVE YOUR LIFE IN FEAR

should you forgive and forget and move on from it? IF YOU CAN, YES

if he seems genuinely sorry do u let go? IT STILL COMES DOWN TO YOU, WHAT YOU WANT AND WHAT YOU CAN TOLERATE

if you continue with the relationship, do you keep holding it over him that he hit you once before? I DONT SEE HOW YOU CAN STOP HOLDING IT OVER HIM..ITS HUMAN NATURE

You can also check out the comments people left@ http://dollchic.blogspot.com/2009/02/violent-men.html

The Girl with the Red Hair said...

Not sure I can stay in such relationship even if he chages because I am one who things agains people.

neefemi said...

From experience....my dad changed...so yes people do change...not everybody will, and at the end of the day, you are going to have to make a personal decision...

Nutty J. said...

huh? with the scenerio you painted, u really have no way of knowing for sure...you either get out or take the chance that he has indeed changed...

People dont change like that....but some do. The question is....are you ready to take the chance and find out? There are some people that are worth taking that chance for

...some are just not worth it.

Jaycee said...
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Jaycee said...

I've seen some leopards change their spots, so my answer is YES. Although I will say many women do not even bother to read into signs...when a person raises his hand to slap a woman, something is wrong with his character somewhere.

I like Doll's responses.

lani said...

People make mistakes and should be given another chance. Don't know if i'll say the same thing if my sis was on the reciving end tho. Every leopard is different, and the leopardess might be the best judge of the situation

leggy said...

so who exactly is going to be waiting around to see if he'd change?

shorty said...

Hmmn the possibility of him changing is very low...

Myne Whitman said...

I like doll's detailed responses. A guy can change or he may not. It is 50.50. The truth is that even the one that never hit you might wake up one day and beat the hell out of you. Like Jaycee said, it's in the character. And at the end of the day, that is what matters.

BTW, what about women that hit men?

BBB said...

@myne good point
Do we think that's justifiable
Is there a point we get to where a woman hitting a man becomes correct
What of when couples fight
And d woman hits d man to protect herself or destroys his property
What's out take on that
Is it a one sided thing
Am going to update this on the post
Let the men speak
Do you think its justifiable to beat up a woman
If she hits u first in anger
Or say she destroys ur property in a struggle
Is that reason enough to like give her a slap

2cute4u said...

Tricky question but truly wonder if they do change.truth is it is rare.
Like once in when Christ will die a 2nd time?
Yeah,that's what.
Unless God is involved my sister.

Parakeet said...

I really believe someone can change....besides one must look beyond the act itself. Some pple need help and just because they make a mistake doesn't mean they shud be condemned. However if it continues then one has to take drastic steps.

aloted said...

personally it is only God that can change that nature both in men and women beaters. so if Jesus is not in the equation i can't trust such a man or woman.

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