Monday, August 8, 2011

Food for Thought

Communication is such an effective Key to successful relationships, I am not just talking about boy and girl relationships, i mean family, friendships, colleagues etc, any relationship formed on earth would collapse without efficient communication.
I am writing this here today because my friendship with one of my girlfriends was on really shaky ground lately apparently, i had offended her and instead of her to call me out like i would have done, she went home seething and almost killing me in her heart, still when i called her she would talk to me like everything was alright, it wasn't until a week ago when she started a new job and i found out from twitter that i realized that water don pass garri.
Called her up to ask whats up because when i got a job she was the first person i told, we are really close and i had been praying for her to find a job since she finished her masters, only for her to start working and i find out from her tweets on twitter.
She wasnt even cold to me, she just carried out my trial in her mind and judged me and decided that she will stay away, id talk to her and she will pretend that all was okay :S, that kind of person can kill, after i confronted her she ended up spilling about how i had wronged her bla bla bla...
My bone of contention in this is this, its not as if i am a friend that always misbehaves or something, so its not like she had given me prior warning, she just vexed and decided to close up about it, that's just wrong.
Id never do that, i am very open about grievances and even happiness, i tell people ish upfront, i cant stay home and be seething and carrying evil in my mind about you, and smiling to your face, na wa oh.
I say shit as it is, if you vex me, i will clear you there and then, if you over do it, i will let you know that our friendship is done, it takes too much work to keep things inside.
Even in boy girl relationships and marriage, ineffective communication can be the downfall of an otherwise effective relationship, why do we prefer to keep things in and boil till we reach boiling point, then explode and say things that we will regret and then we end up becoming the wrongdoer instead of the wronged because of our uncontrollable tongues
THIS IS FOOD FOR THOUGHT

15 comments:

LadyNgo said...

I have almost the exact same post sitting in my drafts. True yarn my sister. Communication is the key that unlocks so many doors.

Unveilinggold said...

I agree with you all the way..Its scary wen people bottle things up..

H said...

Communication is essential...very essential.
I hope u both hv made up.

LohiO said...

Aww that sux! There is NOTHING worse than people not letting you know they are mad at you but not saying anything. It irksss me to my bone! pele

bob-ij said...

I'd be the first to admit that I am not a wronged and share person. But I kinda let things go, that's if a person is just a friend. But if we're close friends, I'd let you know that whatever it was irritated. I'd like to think friends can be blunt with each other.

I really hope you ladies get it sorted. Terrible way to end things. Good luck forgiving her as well for not letting you know!

LadyNgo said...

I have almost the exact same post sitting in my drafts. True yarn my sister. Communication is the key that unlocks so many doors.

Laurenta said...

im actually very forgiving, it was mean of her to harbor such thoughts about me and just decide to not give our friendship a chance without consulting me, we have sorted it out now though

Laurenta said...

me too oh!!! *shrugs*

Laurenta said...

we have, thank God

Laurenta said...

its like they are telling you, e afraid, be very afraid,
i always like to know where i stand with people

Laurenta said...

GBAM

theoruthy2000 said...

haha...*shrug* sometimes its just happens that you'lld rather keep it in mind than call the person out.lol...there's no justification for it yeah but people are very different. i've done it sometimes and still do but not to very very close pals, if i do it to someone, it mins the person mite not be that important to me afterall.

theoruthy2000 said...

ok, i hate your new comment thingy. oya delete ma comment asap as its decided to show ma email addy.

Laurenta said...

oh your email addy isnt showing oh! just the username :( i wanted to be able to reply comments personally, no vex ma :D

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