Communication is such an effective Key to successful relationships, I am not just talking about boy and girl relationships, i mean family, friendships, colleagues etc, any relationship formed on earth would collapse without efficient communication.
I am writing this here today because my friendship with one of my girlfriends was on really shaky ground lately apparently, i had offended her and instead of her to call me out like i would have done, she went home seething and almost killing me in her heart, still when i called her she would talk to me like everything was alright, it wasn't until a week ago when she started a new job and i found out from twitter that i realized that water don pass garri.
Called her up to ask whats up because when i got a job she was the first person i told, we are really close and i had been praying for her to find a job since she finished her masters, only for her to start working and i find out from her tweets on twitter.
She wasnt even cold to me, she just carried out my trial in her mind and judged me and decided that she will stay away, id talk to her and she will pretend that all was okay :S, that kind of person can kill, after i confronted her she ended up spilling about how i had wronged her bla bla bla...
My bone of contention in this is this, its not as if i am a friend that always misbehaves or something, so its not like she had given me prior warning, she just vexed and decided to close up about it, that's just wrong.
Id never do that, i am very open about grievances and even happiness, i tell people ish upfront, i cant stay home and be seething and carrying evil in my mind about you, and smiling to your face, na wa oh.
I say shit as it is, if you vex me, i will clear you there and then, if you over do it, i will let you know that our friendship is done, it takes too much work to keep things inside.
Even in boy girl relationships and marriage, ineffective communication can be the downfall of an otherwise effective relationship, why do we prefer to keep things in and boil till we reach boiling point, then explode and say things that we will regret and then we end up becoming the wrongdoer instead of the wronged because of our uncontrollable tongues
THIS IS FOOD FOR THOUGHT