Saturday, August 13, 2011

Are Nice guys steadily carrying last???

This particular thought has been plaguing me for a while, I have quite a few male friends some closer to me than others, a lot of my male friends are what id like to categorize as nice guys.
Let me break this down:
- they check up on you all the time
- quick to offer a bbm hug or a hug in person when they are available
-they never forget your birthday
-they laugh at all your jokes
-extremely cheesy
-in touch with their feminine side
-Crack too many jokes, to the point of irritation
-they sometimes confuse their relationship with you as more than what it actually is
-they smother you with attention ( smother being the key word)
-apologize at every single turn
-they want to know whats going on at every point in your life
-still they are just your friends (just and friends being the key word)



Now, a guy having some of these characteristics will be a winner, but when you find a guy that possesses every single one of these, he just becomes un-dateable, friendship zone material.
I feel that a man should act like a man, i love a man that's sensitive and tries his best to show he cares, but when a guy starts behaving like i would behave, it just leaves a strong distaste in my mouth.
I feel a guy should be strong and manly, take charge and not be too willing to please, should be charming and not overly larger than life, 
I've met a lot of nice guys in my life, i am not one of those girls that is attracted to  "bad boys", i just dont want a guy that obviously cannot handle me, i dont want to date someone that cant hold his own in an argument, cannot tell me when i'm wrong and correct me, someone that will willingly say sorry even when i am clearly wrong just because he is "too" in love......
Yup!!! if having all this classifies you as a "NICE' guy, then honey, you will definitely carry LAST!





16 comments:

Madame Sting said...

I think being a nice guy and being a weak guy are two different things. I want a nice guy, they don't carry last in my book.

Blessing said...

Yelz...I totally feel you!

Guys like that turn me off...but like Sting said..they're not necessarily "nice" guys...they're weak/push-overs...

I want a nice guy ooo...just not a slow one

Lady Ngo said...

the top half of the list is a nice guy, the bottom half is a lame @$$ lol. Nice guys never finish last unless they are out there trying to chase fat booties in mini skirts and wondering why it doesn't work out. IJS

Giagerry said...

My thots exactly.

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Madame Sting said...

How do u do that? Abeg someone teach me.

Hannah said...

I want that type of guy too....lol...I recently met thattype of guy...*blush*#hint.

Giagerry said...

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Madame Sting said...

thanks.

Laurenta said...

true, i agree, i guess the guy i described is a weak guy

Laurenta said...

Aha!!!!Slow thats the right adjective

Laurenta said...

just follow what she said to the T

@ilola said...

These kind of 'nice guys' are risky o. They let you trip over without ever mentioning their interest. Not my type at all

Seye Kuyinu said...

Well said! lol @ ilola's comment.

The Pet Projects said...

With guys like these, you'll be courting mummy's boy so much that you'll be the one wearing the trouser!

'Jibola said...

Honestly, I've been at both ends of the spectrum: Uber Nice guy and then Mr. Bad Boy. A middle ground works just fine. :)

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